20 August 2013

30 Days 30 Letters: An Open Letter To My Diet Buddy #17 - Grieving: How to Deal With Sadness Without Sabotaging Your Weight Loss Plan

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Dear Diet Buddy,

Ball workout? Eating clean plan? My diet and exercise plan while on vacation is not working. I'm not eating well and I didn't workout. 

Unexpected thing happened during our holiday. Our beloved grandfather - my mom's father - has been called to eternity. He was 81. I'm not so sure what cause his death, but he had been suffering from Alzheimer for a while. Basically, Alzheimer's does not kill a person directly. But factor that work against those with Alzheimer's like the inability to take care of himself leads to other complications, infections and diseases that lead to death. Death is a natural part of life. We know that every human being will die someday. But losing someone you loved is still hurt and make you feel sad. 

Grieving and Weight Gain
Grief affects different people in different ways. The symptoms of grieving can feel similar to depression. Grieving people just want to hole up in bed and do nothing. Food is all the comfort you can find. After losing someone close to you, you may not even care if you get fat. Emotional eaters may find that grief is the road to obesity.

Weight-Loss Grief
Not everyone gain weight, of course. Loss of appetite is also an option. Some people stop eating when they are grieving. They may even experience fatigue and sleep disturbance. On the Dr. Oz show, Eva Longoria revealed how her traumatic divorce results in weight loss.

Eva Longoria recalled how her divorce affecting her health: "I was not eating. I was depressed. I was sad. My diet was coffee."
People grieve for many reasons -- when you lose someone dear to you, the loss of a job, break up, the loss of a pet, divorce, etc.
How to Handle Sadness Without Sabotaging Your Weight Loss Plan 

There's no quick fix but there are practical things you can do to deal with the loss of a loved one:
  • Express yourself - Talking is often a good way to soothe painful emotions.
  • Allow yourself to feel sad - Crying is a healthy part of the process and enables your body to release tension.
  • Maintain a schedule - It reduces the panicky feelings. I
  • Sleep - If you’re having trouble sleeping, see your GP. 
  • Eat healthily - A healthy, well-balanced diet will help you to cope with your emotions. 
  • Avoid things that ‘numb’ the pain, such as alcohol
  • Go to counselling if it feels right for you.

Source: NHS Choices

I want to hear from your personal experience, how do you manage sadness and stick to your weight loss plan while grieving?

Yours truly,

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  1. Grieving takes my appetite away. Food is not something I even care to think about during such times.

    As with all things, I lean on my Faith to get through life's difficult moments. Even dieting.

  2. I'm so sorry about your loss! Good luck managing your weight loss through this difficult time, but focus on your emotional well-being above all else right now.


  3. Hey! I love reading your blog and I've recently been nominated for the liebster award. I now have to nominate a further 11 people and because I love your blog so much, I've chosen you! Go over to my blog http://sparksofserenity.blogspot.co.uk/ for more details on what to do next. Charlotte x

  4. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's totally understandable that you might get off track. You have great insights on how to deal with th grief.

  5. I'm so sorry Honeybee. You are right, everyone deals with grief differently. You have some great tips here! I am more likely to forget to eat when I am grieving.

  6. Dear all, thanks. I really appreciate your kind thoughts. It has been a pleasure and a privilege to have known you all.

  7. I'm so sorry, Honeybee. My grandfather passed the same way and we don't really know exactly what he passed from but years of Alzheimer's was a factor. I'm the type to lose weight while I grieve - I just can't eat when nervous or upset.

  8. I'm so sorry for your loss, Honeybee. You give great suggestions for handling sadness while staying on track. If I am mildly or moderately upset I will definitely use food as a comfort - if it's really bad then I lose my appetite completely.

  9. Dear Honeybee, recently my Dad followed my Mom to the "greener pasture" and in the meantime I am training to a marathon which is going to be in January 2014. I need to lose 10 lbs., approximately 4-5 kg. I am running 3-4 times a week, have 2 days gym exercise with me personal trainer and zumba once in a while, eating healthy (no bread, rice, pasta, sugar). Going church to a grief share so my soul get exercised as well, ohh and we have a Siberian Husky with full of energy, so you can imagine that I am moving a lot. All this sounds very healthy isn't it? But the problem is that, I am unable to lose these 10 lbs. since 2 months. My Dad passed away in July 16. 2013, so it’s fairly a new cloud over my life, I have a stable relationship and a good no-stress job. I am so happy that I found your blog, because losing weight or just maintain it and grieving in the same time, seem like an impossible friendship. I keep continou to try different things and see which will finally give me the kick to start to lose this last 10 lbs. (which is the most difficult one) and let you guys know. Ohh, and one more thing, I am 32 years old and coming from Europe, so all my family members are there. I hope that you are doing well in your grief and find comfort. Have a happy day.

  10. Hi Vanda Juhász. I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I know losing someone you love is very painful. I can imagine how you're going through this tough moment. You know, I've been there. Thanks for sharing with me. I pray may God provide you the strength you need to cope with the loss at the soonest time. Good luck with your upcoming marathon.



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