Weight Loss Commitment: 5 Signs You're Afraid of Commitment

Commitment refer to a promise to do something, or to give something. Making commitment means dedicating yourself to someone or to a cause. Making a true commitment to weight loss and health means making a lifelong decision to eating well and regular physical activity, stay devoted to what you want and stand strong no matter what the obstacle.

To be honest, after had my baby boy 4 years ago I am still struggling to lose weight. I just update a quick recap of my weight loss journey here. It's frustrating to see how far I still have to go. I feel unsettling. I take time for self-reflection and come to a conclusion that I want to lose weight and get healthy but the fear of commitment is ruining my weight loss goal.

Weight Loss Commitment: Why are you afraid to commit?

The reason can be summed in one sentence. You don’t want change...because change requires some stretching out of our comfort zones.

[ Read: What To Do When Life Doesn't Seem to Be Working For You.]

Do anyone feel like I do? You don’t want a new change in your routine because you’re afraid you may not like the change. Or you're afraid of failing.

What if I don't meet my weight loss or fitness goal? I will be a laughing stock in front of my peers, family or relatives. 

But instead of confronting the real fear of change, you look for a million reasons to justify why you should stay away from commitment. And without realizing it, you'd start looking for excuses just to rationalize your action.

5 signs you’re afraid of commitment

#1 One life. Just real food.

No more burger? Chocolate? Does the thought of a complete abstinence from junk foods scare you? Losing weight or to get healthy is a lifestyle change. While diet is all about numbers on the scale, number of calories you eat and burn, healthy lifestyle is about lining up your eating and physical activity with your real goals and desires. Once you adapt to healthy lifestyle, dealing with junk food is not an issue anymore.

#2. Fear of failure

Fear of failure affects lots of people. It closely related to fear of criticism or rejection. Fear of failure can stop us from achieving our goals. We are only human. We do make mistakes sometimes. The way to handle is by being aware of that mistakes, face it and sees it as necessary for learning experience. Failing is not a crime; it is just a stepping stone to achieve our dreams.

#3. There's so much you want to achieve.

I used to set a huge goals like losing 10kg in 1 month. Haha! I know, I am not the only want who probably always want to see result ---fast! Human beings, by nature, are lazy, ambitious, and impatient. Setting unrealistic goals might leave us feeling overwhelmed and depressed. Focus on one baby step at a time. For example, cut out soda from your diet.

#4. You’re perfect just the way you are. 

Great excuse. You’re happy with your weight and everything's just dandy. So why would you want to lose weight to conform to the rules of society? Good point there. But instead of looking at losing weight as unnecessary rules set by the society, try to see it as a healthy commitment you're making to yourself. Determine how much you should weigh for your height. Remember that your personal ideal weight will also depend on whether you are a man or a woman, and whether you have a light, medium or heavy-set body frame. Aim for healthy weight.

#5 Healthy foods are expensive 

It seems cheaper to eat a burger, fries, and a soda from KFC than to eat a meal of whole foods. Many people think this is true. But healthy food may not be as expensive as it's often made out to be. You just need to be clever about it. 

Quick tips from Change for Life: 

• Buy what’s local and in season. 
• Make meat go further in casseroles or stir-fries by mixing it with cheaper healthy alternatives such as beans, pulses and frozen veg. 
• Cook batches of dishes such as chilli, curry or stew, and freeze them in handy sizes. Then you will have a cheap healthy meal that will last and last. 

The fear of weight loss commitment may seem genuine, but it's almost always just an excuse because you don't like change in your life.

Do you have commitment issues? 

How do you stay committed with your goals? 

(Any goals - weight loss, fitness, time management, career, financial, etc. ) 

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Weight Loss Help: 5 Randoms Act of Kindness You Can Do To Yourself Today

It's been a while since my last post. I hope you miss me. You know when a diet blogger stop posting, it might because she has been off track her diet. Haha~ Partly true for my case. In fact, my monitor stopped functioning and that's the reason of the lack of update. However, it's fixed now. I'm not entirely missing, still active on Instagram. Follow me honeybeegeb on Instagram and let's get connected. :)

We often taught or read about doing random act of kindness. Random act of kindness is doing something for someone without any thought of receiving something in return. Why bother to practice this? Because an act of kindness, no matter how big or small can make someone's day. Have you ever experienced a random act of kindness from a stranger? Do you remember how it made you feel? The effect is not only impact to the other person but to yourself as well. They bring yourself joy, inner happiness and peace. They liberate us from self-obsession, selfishness, and isolation. It's a really liberating feeling.

But have you ever thought of doing the same kindness to your own body? Loving yourself is a great approach in the process of losing weight. Don't wait until you lose the weight to love yourself. 

It's easy to say what you DON'T love about your body. It's not a surprise! We are always our own worst and biggest critic, don't we? We often compare ourselves to others. We don't feel beautiful, don't feel good enough. Being kind and nice to yourself is as important as being kind to others. Being kind to yourself means taking care of your own body by eating right, exercise regularly, getting enough sleep. After all, your body is the only place you have to live, right? Being kind to yourself also means freeing yourself from toxic relationship, from self-hatred, self-disgust, self-sabotage, anger, worries, and the list goes on. And being kind to yourself means enjoying your life. We don't have to be conform to "Hollywood" standard of beauty.

5 Random Act of Kindness You Can Do To Yourself Today

1. Take a Laugh Break

The old saying 'laughter is the best medicine' is definitely appears to be true. According to Michael Miller, director of the Center for Preventive Cardiology at the University of Maryland Medical Center in Baltimore, a good belly laugh leads to the release of endorphins from the brain.

Endorphins, pleasure-inducing neurotransmitters, activate receptors on the surface of the endothelium, the layer of flat cells lining blood vessels. That leads to the release of nitric oxide, which widens blood vessels—increasing blood flow, lessening inflammation, inhibiting platelet clumping, and reducing the formation of cholesterol plaque.

How to get a good laugh? Read a comic, or a funny book, watch a sitcom, hang out with people who make you laugh.

2. Trust the Process

I am still in a weight loss journey. Failure after failure it seems like unending journey for me. I feels like I'll never succeed. I can't hold up a diet for more than a few weeks. Staying committed to being fit is a daily struggle. I'm tired of counting calories. Weight loss motivation comes and goes. But along the way I learned that losing weight and keeping it off is a lifestyle change. Not until you lose weight but forever. The process is terrific but it's so worth it. 

Stress could be impacting your weight loss. But learn to trust the process is one great way to de-stress yourself. It's obvious, the end result I wanted is losing weight — to end obesity, to end the cycle of dieting. But each decision I made to lose weight for example avoid junk foods or wake up early to catch my morning workout is a process that makes me grow, a chance to know myself better, learning to love myself, and to develop self-trust. I don't know what end result you are expecting of but whatever your goals might be, career, financial or fitness wise, know that each choices you make today to reach your goals is a learning process. Each choice you make builds trust, and with trust, the choices get easier. 

3.  Say Kind Things to Yourself 

Like I mentioned earlier, we are our own worst critic, so even though you understand the value of being kind toward yourself, it isn't always easy to practice especially if you have develop the attitude of constantly criticizing yourself for a long time. But I know with practice, you will learn how to do it. The more you practice, the more unbidden kind thoughts appear in your mind. Read: 60 Examples of Positive Self-Talk. You can't kill a bad habit but you can stop doing it.

4.Overcoming Challenges

Challenge is not a failure. Failure is a challenge that telling you that your plans need a tweak. We grow by acknowledging our weaknesses. If people around you try to bring you down, for example someone says that you are never going to lose weight, that you'll never succeed, ask the question and find answers that tell you that it isn't really true. You may see that you are actually doing a good job in your workout routine, but may be a bit off track with your calorie intake. The strive to be perfect will diminishes your worth. Instead of striving to be perfect, strive to do your best so that in that way you can increase your capacity for self-kindness.

5. Invest in Yourself

Start today. Ask yourself, how do you feel? What do you need? What action needed to reach your goals? Spend at least 30 minutes in the morning or evening reading material that will motivates you. Be open to learn new skills and improve yourself. Hire weight loss coach or join a fitness club. Try bungee jumping or learn golf. By constantly learning new things you will keep your mind and body active. Take a moment to appreciate and enjoy your smaller accomplishments, or you could miss it. This approach makes life lighter, more joyful and it becomes easier to keep the motivation up.

What's one nice thing you can do to yourself today?

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